Question: The
custom of dowry has become a great impediment to marriage in our society.
The worst to suffer is the lower middle
class. What does Islam have to say about it? Also, should
parents give nothing to their daughter whom they intend to marry off?
Answer: Making
marriage conditional upon dowry is no doubt a great social evil. As such,
it is condemnable. It is really shameful if the bridegroom or his family
demand dowry from the bride. This has indeed become a great hindrance to
marriage. We see several girls going past their marriageable age because
their families cannot meet this demand.
However, if the bride’s parents want
to gift something to her on their own without any pressure from the other
side, then this cannot be objected to. The only thing is that this should
not become a show of wealth or pomposity whereby a wrong trend is set in
the society, which, of course, would be detrimental for the deprived classes.
An effective way to avoid making a display of such gifts is to give them
much earlier or perhaps much later than the ceremony.
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