Question: What is the logic
behind ordering a woman to stay in her house for a certain period after
the death of the husband ?
Answer: According to the Qur'an,
a widow should not remarry for four months and ten days after her husband's
death:
If any of you die and leave widows behind, they should
restrain themselves for a period of four months and ten days. When they
have fulfilled their term, there is no blame on you about whatever they
decide about themselves according to the [general] custom [of the society].
(2:234)
There are two basic objectives for this
waiting period (iddat) for the widow:
1) To ascertain whether she is pregnant
or not. If she is, this waiting period extends to the birth of the child.
2) To provide her with some time to
mourn for her husband.
During this time neither should the
relatives of the husband trouble her nor should she look for a new spouse.
Staying at home during iddat is
no directive of the Shari`ah, as is
generally understood.
However, a widow, during this period,
should not go about doing things which are against its objectives stated
above. The mourning period has its own sanctity and a widow should observe
this period with solemnity and austerity. If she is pregnant, she should
be careful in her life style lest someone may try to cast aspersions on
the lineage of the child she is carrying. Keeping these objectives in consideration,
she can lead her life in any way she wants.
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