Question: I
am a male aged 22. I am gay and have strong homosexual tendencies. I know
that, according to Islam, practising homosexuality is not good and should
be stopped. However, I am a born homosexual. I really want to have sex
with men. So what should I do? I know that if I try for that I can do it,
but I know that its not natural. But then, why did God made me like this?
This is not fair? I can’t marry a woman because I don’t like women, but
like other humans I also burn in the fire of sex. Other people are allowed
to marry and extinguish their fire but what should people like me do?
Comment: You
yourself have acknowledged the fact that homosexuality is unnatural and
prohibited in Islam. After this, the only thing I can say is that your
problem seems to be psychological. I would therefore advise you to consult
a doctor. And if the problem is genetical as you seem to claim, then even
this does not give you the license to go ahead, for it is not a sin to
be afflicted with a problem, but it sure is one not to make an effort to
get out of it. If there is something truly beyond your capacity, then the
only thing it may warrant is that your accountability in this regard will
be proportionate to the free will you can exercise.
Moreover, you should consider your
state as a form of trial and test -- the principle on which the Almighty
has created this world. He created people in various moulds in various
circumstances in order to test them and reward them if they succeed in
this test. If He has deprived people from some faculty or some ability,
it is to test them. He has created children who are born blind or handicapped
in some other way. If God is unfair to you, then perhaps He is even more
unfair to such children. I think that the correct way to look at such departures
is to understand scheme of the Merciful Creator on which He has created
us, for though each one of us has different circumstances, yet each one
of us has an equal opportunity to enter the Kingdom of Heaven on the
basis of the effort we make.
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