Question: I
have recently converted to Islam, which is wonderful, but my parents are
Christian and do not approve of it. I want to be able to wear the Hijab
and pray openly. Right now I have been praying, but I’ve been hiding
away in my room, afraid that my parents might come in and see me. I know
this is not how I should do it, but my parents do not approve of my conversion.
I know that I should try to show them the way, but I know that they won’t
listen and I still have to live with them. How should I handle this situation?
Answer: You
should handle the situation very prudently. Islam does not require of you
to immediately declare your conversion to your parents. If circumstances
are such that they might react offensively and might even try to force
you to change back, you can hold back your declaration till the time you
think is feasible. It is up to you to decide.
A gradual way can be adopted. In this
way, you yourself will become strong in your faith and gain inner strength.
In the meantime, you can prepare your parents’ minds by telling them that
you are seriously re-considering the basic questions of life viz: Who is
our Creator? Why did He create us? What will happen to us when we die?
Do human beings have the Book of God with them in its original shape? Why
are there different religions?
In this way, you can prepare them
that you have embarked upon the quest for the truth and that you are inclined
to adopt whatever seems the truth to you on the basis of arguments and
reasoning.
Keep asking Allah to make the task easier for you. Remember,
prayers have great force and effect. Lastly, you must not be rude or disrespectful
to your parents even if they scold or coerce you.
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