Question: Lately, I have been
going through depression. I am a woman of twenty seven (27) and have not
gotten married as yet. I try hard not to think about this but somehow it
really makes me sad. Please help me out.
Answer: Please understand that
whatever experiences we have in our life they are in one way or another
tests from Allah. Regardless of whether the experience is positive or negative,
the Qur’an tells us that it is indeed a test from Allah.
The nature of these tests varies for
different people depending on their own circumstances and of course according
to the Master Plan of Allah. We can, given our understanding of a particular
situation and the rules laid down by Allah, choose the best course of action.
However, Allah decides the outcome and it needs not be in line with our
desires or expectations.
From the information that you have
chosen to share with us, I understand this to be nothing but a test from
Allah. You should sincerely pray, as a humble servant of Allah, that He
may move you towards what is best for you in terms of this life and the
life to come. It is likely that perhaps Allah has chosen a path for you
in which you will not get married and, in time, involve yourself in some
other great noble task. On the other hand, it is equally likely that the
apparent delay is for your benefit and perhaps you will be blessed with
the best possible partner.
I recommend that you do not dwell
on what Allah might possibly have in store for you. Instead you should
vigorously pray that Allah may take you towards the path which is best
for you in terms of this life and the life to come.
As an added note, I recommend that
you recite the following supplication as often as you like:
O my Lord! truly am I in [desperate] need of
any good that You do send me! (28:24)
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